Joy Eggerichs 鈥�04 thought she might work in conflict resolution鈥攐r maybe fashion鈥攂ut she never expected to join the family business. When her mother developed breast cancer, Joy postponed enrollment in fashion school and then realized her heart wasn鈥檛 in it. Her parents, authors of the marriage book 鈥淟ove and Respect,鈥� needed help directing their events, so Joy went to work for Sarah and Emerson Eggerichs and their organization, Love and Respect Ministries.
Joy soon created her own niche in the family enterprise. People kept telling her they wished they鈥檇 heard the Love and Respect message before getting married, so Joy established Love and Respect Now in Portland, Ore., to offer teaching and advice about relationships to people 18-35. Her own broken engagement and single status help her understand the longing for authentic relationships and the pain too often experienced in seeking them. She freely shares her personal experiences with quirky, self-deprecating humor and easily relates to her peers.
In Ephesians 5:33, Paul tells husbands to love their wives and wives to respect their husbands. 鈥淲e all need love and respect,鈥� Joy says. The ministry鈥檚 research of husbands and wives in conflict found that most wives feel unloved and most husbands feel disrespected. The goal is helping them learn to show love and respect to each other.
鈥淟ife doesn鈥檛 begin when you get married,鈥� Joy says. 鈥淚 see a lot of fear about relationships, which may be because the Christian culture has made an idol of marriage. We shouldn鈥檛 idolize marriage or singleness but be in tune with our desires and fears and take active steps toward a relationship if that鈥檚 what we want.鈥�
A frequent speaker to college and church groups, Joy loves addressing an audience. 鈥淚 think live public speaking is an incredible art form,鈥� she says. 鈥淚 never take it lightly, and I prepare for each time I step on the stage.鈥� She takes classes in improvisation to improve her speaking style and develop the humor she considers an essential part of her presentation.
Last year, she released The Illumination Project, a six-week DVD series. Based on a conversation with her father about tough questions filmed before a live audience, the video encourages young people to seek advice from the older generation. Joy learned the value of mentors from her professors at 蜜桃传媒, especially in communication studies, her major. 鈥溍厶掖� provided quality people who made themselves available to me,鈥� she says. 鈥淚 made such incredible relationships there. Of course it helped that we didn鈥檛 have cars, cell phones or Facebook and had to build a community for ourselves.
Joy鈥檚 message this fall focuses on identity. 鈥淲e live at a time when people hunger to be known and find it increasingly more difficult to be known,鈥� Joy says. 鈥淚鈥檓 exploring what it means to have our identity in Christ. I鈥檓 asking people what they really believe because that changes everything.
鈥淕od can use you鈥攁nd your brokenness鈥攊f you have a willing heart,鈥� she says.